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Why you should marry someone with ADHD

5 Reasons Why You Should Marry Someone with ADHD

You have probably met someone, have a bestie, or even a love interest who has ADHD. So it might be easy to assume that living with an ADHDer, whether they’re a roommate or a spouse, is a lot of work. Or, you may already know exactly why you should marry someone with ADHD.

But let’s face it — it can be challenging.

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Why you should marry someone with ADHD 

1. People with ADHD have contagious energy.

As someone who has an ADHD brain and cherishes her friends with neurodiverse brains, I can tell you one thing; it’s easy to stay entertained when you’re in the company of someone with ADHD.

We tend to have a bright and positive energy that’s often contagious. And because we have so many interests and passions, there’s always something to talk about. 

2. People with ADHD keep things exciting.

Sometimes impulsive, sometimes just spontaneous! It’s hard to draw the line here, but if you’re seeking a pal who’s always up for an adventure, you can count on ADHDers to be your partner in all the fun.

Even our impulsive tendencies can have a good side. For instance, we’re more likely to join you in your last-minute mischief than your less spontaneous friends! You might be inspired to say yes to something new and get out of your comfort zone when hanging with us. 

3. People with ADHD thrive in creative expression.

Creativity is a common and major strength in the lovely ADHD brain. We are ideation machines! Our careful attention to detail paired with our strengths in creative expression can result in fabulous work, from building our own business to creating artwork to connecting with others.

4. People with ADHD dream big.

If you know anyone with ADHD well enough, you’ve probably noticed that they have at least one thing they’re super passionate about. It’s true for anyone that finding the thing that you can’t stop talking about is worth investing your efforts into.

People with ADHD make great business partners. Once we’re committed to an idea, we dream big, hone in on the minute details, add valuable insight, and dedicate everything to our masterpieces. 

5. People with ADHD are sensitive.

I used to try and hide my sensitive side because I perceived it as a weakness.

But, as I mature, I’m learning that embracing my emotions, both positive and negative, is healthy. Being honest with my feelings and sharing them with my husband continues to help me break my habit of bottling things up. And in turn, it’s brought us even closer together.

As a newly married couple, my partner Juan and I have been fortunate enough to intertwine our lives and deepen our bond and love for each other. We are working to understand what makes each other tick, cringe, weep, and erupt in laughter (especially the last one).

However, my relationship is inevitably impacted by ADHD, which I have, but Juan does not. And just like most things in life, there are negatives and positives to it. 

Now, we can spend all day talking about how ADHD can negatively affect you and your loved ones, but what’s the fun in that?! So instead, let’s hyper-focus on the positives today.

Why you should marry someone with ADHD 

Why you should marry someone with ADHD 

Let me start with a question for both parties to ponder:

  • For the partner with ADHD: What are your best qualities that shine through the condition?
  • For the non-ADHD partner: What strengths do you see in your partner? What do you absolutely love about them? 

Your answers may align with one or more of the traits below!

1. People with ADHD have contagious energy.

As someone who has an ADHD brain and cherishes her friends with neurodiverse brains, I can tell you one thing; it’s easy to stay entertained when you’re in the company of someone with ADHD.

We tend to have a bright and positive energy that’s often contagious. And because we have so many interests and passions, there’s always something to talk about. 

2. People with ADHD keep things exciting.

Sometimes impulsive, sometimes just spontaneous! It’s hard to draw the line here, but if you’re seeking a pal who’s always up for an adventure, you can count on ADHDers to be your partner in all the fun.

Even our impulsive tendencies can have a good side. For instance, we’re more likely to join you in your last-minute mischief than your less spontaneous friends! You might be inspired to say yes to something new and get out of your comfort zone when hanging with us. 

3. People with ADHD thrive in creative expression.

Creativity is a common and major strength in the lovely ADHD brain. We are ideation machines! Our careful attention to detail paired with our strengths in creative expression can result in fabulous work, from building our own business to creating artwork to connecting with others.

4. People with ADHD dream big.

If you know anyone with ADHD well enough, you’ve probably noticed that they have at least one thing they’re super passionate about. It’s true for anyone that finding the thing that you can’t stop talking about is worth investing your efforts into.

Leaning into these things can be especially rewarding for neurodiverse brains because they have extra difficulty focusing on and completing projects that don’t interest them. 

People with ADHD, however, make great business partners. Once we’re invested in an idea, we dream big, hone in on the minute details, add valuable insight, and dedicate everything to our masterpieces. 

5. People with ADHD are sensitive.

It’s typical for people with ADHD to struggle with emotional regulation. So when negative emotions hit, they hit hard. For example, say you don’t have ADHD, and one day you misplace your watch. You know it’s somewhere in your apartment, so you continue on with your day without getting particularly upset over it.

It’s a different experience for someone with an unpredictable ADHD brain, which can be completely thrown off by a minor mishap like accidentally misplacing a watch.

You spend the next 10 minutes searching everywhere, hastily pulling out drawers and knocking over piles. Next thing you know, you’re already late for your appointment, your heart’s racing at 100mph, and you can’t stop dwelling on the fact that you didn’t put your watch away the night before. 

What’s wrong with you!? Why can’t you get it right?!

Sounds hectic? Trust me, it is for everyone involved, especially those with ADHD. 

Contrary to popular belief, being sensitive is a valuable trait. It enables you to feel deeply and genuinely empathize with others.

I used to try and hide my sensitive side because I perceived it as a weakness.

But, as I mature, I’m learning that embracing my emotions, both positive and negative, is healthy. Being honest with my feelings and sharing them with my husband continues to help me break my habit of bottling things up. And in turn, it’s brought us even closer together.

Well, there you have it!

These are the five reasons why you should marry someone with ADHD. If you still need convincing, investing in ADHD friendships can be just as rich and fulfilling.

Either way, on behalf of all the incredible neurodivergent brains out there, thank you for taking the time to understand how others may operate differently from you. 

Your patience, empathy, and willingness to learn is the most gracious gift. Thank you.

Can’t wait to see you in the next post!

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2 Responses

  1. You’re sensitivity is an asset, that is true. You are one of the kindest, and strongest, people I’ve ever known. I’ve always said, you’re my role model!

    1. I saw it as a weakness earlier in life, but now I know it’s a strength that not everyone has! Right back at you. You’re my role model too! <3

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